A Pretty Mean Girl

A new student enrolled at my son's school. She sat behind him; blonde curly hair with angelic blue eyes. He tried to make friends with her but she never wanted to talk to him. When she started to make her own choice of friends, she started to tease him. Light teasing turned into bullying weeks later. She'd say things like, "you're so stupid" and "I hate you" just because he greeted her in the morning.

There was never any specific reason why this girl didn't like him (of course, there should never be any specific reason for bullying). This bothered him very much because he wanted her to be his friend. He will probably never admit it to me or his father, but we had the feeling that she was his very first crush. 

We have always taught him the value of never being negative, even if someone is mean to him. In doing so, he will only go down to their level. If he continues to be nice to a bully, then he will have shown a great deal of character in himself. If necessary, he should definitely go to an adult for anything horribly wrong. For the most part, he has stuck up for himself on his own and we're really proud of him. If she never wants to be his friend, then it's her loss. She'll just never get to know what a great person he is.

Last night, he had a nightmare. He dreamed that he was trying his best to deal with this pretty girl and her meanness. As he was desperately trying to get her to like him, she morphed into some kind of monster; something out of The Lord of the Rings movie. After he told me about his nightmare, I asked him, "Did you escape from her?" He answered, "Yes."

"Were you hurt?"

"No."

"Why do you think she turned into an ugly Orc?"

"Because she is so mean."

"Did you think she was pretty then?"

"Heck no!"

That nightmare made him realize that no matter how beautiful someone is on the outside, the inside of that person will be grotesque. It made him totally change the way he saw her.

                                      I don't think he's got a crush on her anymore!